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Ugh, this weekend is going to suck. So much hw to do. Not to mention the up and coming holiday.

A wrote a little essay awhile back discussing the differences of Valentine's Day traditions from the US and Japan. It's interesting so check it out. Feel free to disagree with me. I wrote this on an angry day.

The traditions we hold for Valentine’s Day in America aren’t fair. One sex is expected to do something and to give something while the other doesn’t do much at all. To further go into the explanation of fairness in Valentine’s Day I will cover two countries, each with their own version of how to celebrate this day.

USA: In the United States as it is in other countries Valentine’s Day is clearly a time when men give women who they are dating, or who they like, flowers or candy. Even jewelry is given at times. In some cases women do give men gifts but it is usually the women who expect something to be given to them. Also some couples go out to dinner or also go to dinner as well as give each other gifts. Children in school pass out Valentines, a card, that are given to close friends or crushes.

Japan: In Japan the holiday of Valentine’s Day has taken a different approach. Traditionally a girl makes chocolates and gives these chocolates to their crushes, boyfriends, or really close friends. These chocolates tend to be made of milk chocolates and are handmade, but the tradition of giving chocolates can also be store-bought. In turn another holiday was created, White Day which is on March 14th, for the boys to repay their gratitude to the girls by giving them white-chocolate. This tradition has been changed over the years and now anything can be given on White Day. Friends also give gifts to show their appreciation for their friendship.

So now you can see why our traditions in America aren’t fair. If you are a girl, do you think that it is fair that you expect the guy in your life to get you something? If you are a guy, do you think it is fair that you go out searching for the right flowers or candy while you get nothing for your gratitude? Maybe we should change our ways of thinking and adopt more of the ways of the Japanese. Let’s make this day for love and not just about the products.


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Feb. 10th, 2005 09:35 pm (UTC)
yea there's alot of anime that explores Valentines and White Day.. I really like the idea actually.. but japan has been more open than us for a long time. i wouldn't mind living there.. if only i knew fluent kanji, lol.
Feb. 11th, 2005 09:14 am (UTC)
A language barrier would be a tough one. Although a lot of people move to countries and "pick up" the language. Maybe you should save your money and try it ^_^
Feb. 11th, 2005 01:48 pm (UTC)
you actually have to be fluent in kanji in order to move to japan. i've considered the prospects of working for someplace like Square or Konami.. but i really suck at learning other languages, heh.
Feb. 10th, 2005 09:46 pm (UTC)
Well said. I don't mind getting gifts for people on valentines day, but I do agree that there could be a lot less expectation involved with valentines in the west. It seems so formal for some reason. That's alright for couples I suppose, but for the average person i think it can be really intimidating. It should be about fun, not competition.
Feb. 10th, 2005 09:50 pm (UTC)
I think it's competition for the business world mostly. Advertisers everywhere are trying to make a lot of money with their bs stuff (roses, chocolates, jewelry, etc).

But I can see why you say it's a personal competition as well; the guy has to get the girl the best, most special gift he could give; more special than last year's or something. *rolls eyes* Ugh, I'd never make my boyfriends do that. It's not worth it at all.
Feb. 10th, 2005 09:57 pm (UTC)
Lol yes the trick is to buy a small gift the first time so when you have to out do your last gift it's not quite so hard.

Personally, I think a prefer handmade gifts anyway cause those are really from the heart. Other things are nice gestures, but don't have as much meaning.

Personally I like buying/making gifts for girls, but it's always better when the gift is just appreciated rather than expected. That makes it even more special.
Feb. 11th, 2005 07:11 am (UTC)
Personally I like buying/making gifts for girls, but it's always better when the gift is just appreciated rather than expected. That makes it even more special.

Exactly. I feel the same way. :)
Feb. 10th, 2005 09:46 pm (UTC)
*shrugs* I begged scarletspider not to give me anything, but he insists (mostly because we're each other's first girl/boyfriend on Valentine's Day). I'm also giving him something not special but something useful that I think he'd really like.

I do agree that Valentine's Day isn't fair, that it's just a waste of money to buy cards, flowers, chocolates, jewelry, and other things, most I don't like (except chocolates, hehe :D). But it's just a day to celebrate love; not only for your boy/girlfriends, but for your family members and friends as well. It's better than a day to celebrate something like... hate, anyway. lol
Feb. 11th, 2005 09:12 am (UTC)
Yes, I agree. It's just that it's so expected here that its hard to get away from. Poeple ask you about what your bf/gf got you and its just worse to hear when you are already alone.
Feb. 11th, 2005 10:19 am (UTC)
*hugs* I know it's hard.
Feb. 11th, 2005 07:23 am (UTC)
I like the idea of having a White Day where the guys repay the girls - it makes it seem more special, somehow. Wouldn't mind doing that, if I had a guy ::sigh::

However, like what Tina said, Valentines Day should be a day to just celebrate love in general. The love you have for your friends and family. It's either that or it's just a complacency for those without a significant other. I try to focus on the former ~_^
Feb. 11th, 2005 09:10 am (UTC)
Yeah I agree on all accounts. I tried to wrap up my message with the thought that it should be a day just to celebreate "love".
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